Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

We have all heard that we shouldn’t sweat the small stuff. Letting oneself get stressed out over the little things in life is one of the biggest ways to bring unnecessary grief into life’s path. We can avoid a lot of negative feelings, and even health problems, simply by learning not to let the little things get to us.

Focus on the Big Picture

When something small happens that makes you want to rage, compare the moment’s significance to everything else going on in your own life, and in the world around you. You may have spilt your cake batter on the floor an hour before your guests are due to arrive. Are your friends still going to love you and enjoy the evening even if you don’t have a freshly baked cake for them? If so, maybe you should put your energy somewhere other than berating yourself for this small mistake.

Remember That We All Make Mistakes

When something small threatens to destroy your attitude and positive outlook, think about the fact that everyone makes mistakes. Whether it is yourself or someone else who caused the situation that feels like a train wreck, keep in mind that mistakes are a normal part of life that happen to everyone. Don’t let one bad moment take you by surprise.

Forgive Others

It can be hard to forgive someone else when it feels like they have brought you extra work and stress. When someone rear-ends your vehicle, you may be tempted to lash out at them verbally. However, stop and think about how it may feel to be in their situation. Don’t act and feel as though you have never made a mistake, but choose empathy.

Forgive Yourself

Forgiving others can be a simple matter in comparison to forgiving ourselves. There are many moments that we treat ourselves worse than we would ever allow a friend to treat us.

When you are having a difficult time forgiving yourself, think of how you would handle a similar mistake made by a good friend. Stop and think before bullying yourself, and consider seeking professional help if you can’t stop a cascade of negative thoughts every time you fall short of perfection.

Ask Yourself If It Will Matter in Ten Years

We all have problems, and generally, at the time, any problem seems big. Perception is not always the truth, though, and it is up to us to put our situation into perspective so that we can properly deal with whatever comes our way.

When something negative happens in your life, ask yourself if it will matter in ten years. If it won’t, let it go. If someone gives you the middle finger in traffic, you may be tempted to lose your cool, but it is simply not worth it. Save your emotions for things that are life-changing and deserve your full attention.

When something goes wrong, you have two choices. You can slip into a rage, or let it go. Making the choice not to sweat the small stuff will bring you life-changing happiness, and you will be thankful for your own shift in perspective.

14 Comments

  1. June 8, 2020 / 3:26 pm

    Some really good advice! It certainly takes time to work on the ability to not sweat the small stuff, but when you remember that there is always a solution to a problem, life becomes easier! Sim x

  2. joanna
    June 8, 2020 / 7:46 pm

    I am guilty of this, I always over react over small things, especially when I am feeling overwhelmed by the bigger things. Your article is a good reminder to stop and take a breath, and think, “is this really important?”.

  3. June 8, 2020 / 9:34 pm

    I definitely need to learn not to do this, I can get so easily stressed and I know that it isn’t good for me.

  4. June 8, 2020 / 10:24 pm

    I think sometimes it is really hard to remember not to worry about the small things. I know I often lose myself worrying about things which I really shouldn’t.

  5. June 9, 2020 / 10:53 am

    There are some excellent tips here, ive been working on this over the last couple of years and its something that we all should do, e too worked up over the small stuff, focus on whats important etc.

  6. June 9, 2020 / 11:02 am

    This is such a great post, I am one of those people that stress over everything, my husband tells me off in a nice way, pointing out can I change it or do anything about it, how does it affect me and various other things and he is right. Just focus on what you can change x

  7. June 9, 2020 / 12:05 pm

    There’s some excellent advice in this post – I also try not to worry about things that I have no control over!

  8. June 9, 2020 / 12:37 pm

    Some great tips here. We are all living with extra stress at the moment due to the pandemic and lockdown, so it’s more important than ever to be kind to ourselves and to other people.

  9. Rhian westbury
    June 9, 2020 / 12:55 pm

    You’re so right that we all make mistakes and I think it’s so important for people to realise that. No one is perfect and you learn from mistakes x

  10. June 9, 2020 / 1:28 pm

    This is a wonderful post and I agree having a positive outlook on life and seeing the good rather than focusing on the negative is more beneficial to your health and mind.

  11. Melanie williams
    June 9, 2020 / 4:22 pm

    You are so right about this. It is so easy to get in a spin over the small stuff for sure which can be frustrating x

  12. June 10, 2020 / 3:57 pm

    I worry about something for 2 minutes then let it go, I find this trick works for me!

  13. June 11, 2020 / 11:52 am

    Really good advice. I used to really stress over things, but now I have learned to let it go and feel so much better for it

  14. Jess Howliston
    June 11, 2020 / 12:54 pm

    A very thought provoking post, thanks for sharing! I definitely need to learn to let things go more, whilst I don’t get “angry” I do let things upset me or make me anxious and then let them get to me more and more. I will definitely take some of these suggestions into consideration.

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